A New Year’s Prayer

Bunch of roses @ Kodaikanal Home

I came across this Prayer on the internet while reading. I like to share it.

May God make your year a happy one!

Not by shielding you from all sorrows and pain,

But by strengthening you to bear it, as it comes;

Not by making your path easy,

But by making you sturdy to travel any path;

Not by taking hardships from you,

But by taking fear from your heart;

Not by granting you unbroken sunshine,

But by keeping your face bright, even in the shadows;

Not by making your life always pleasant,

But by showing you when people and their causes need you most,

     and by making you anxious to be there to help.

God’s love, peace, hope and joy to you for the year ahead.

 May God Bless and Keep you.

 Have a Blessed new year ahead

 God Bless

Balance between Work & Family

Balance between Work & Family

Here are some ideas that can help you achieve an improved balance between work and family.

Tips for perfect working

• Schedule your a daily ‘to-do’ list and prioritise the tasks.
• Do the most urgent work and do the rest as it demands.
• Break large tasks into smaller parts and do one at a time based on the priority.
• Periodically review your work .
• When feeling prolonged and incomplete , then re-prioritise  the work and time logs
• Ask for support when you need it. Do not hesitate.
•  Ask for  feedback about  work and try to change the needed.
• Plan quiet time during the day when you can put your head down and focus on

getting your work done.

·         Do not waste your time in the work place.

·         Since we are paid we have to contribute, what is expected of us.

• Don’t try to pack too much into one day. Have realistic expectations of what you

can achieve.

• At the end of the day, review your ‘to-do’ list and re-prioritise your work for the  

next day.

• Delegate work. do not over stuff you.
• Because circumstances  may change- don’t be afraid to re-negotiate

expectations and flexible arrangements may be  required.

• Remember always  - if  your home front is  well organised, you will be more effective at work too.

·         Tips to manage your home  and its duties

·         Plan, shop and prepare meals in advance when possible, making it easier to attend to when you get home. Consider shopping online to save time.

• Keep a family calendar to schedule holidays, events, appointments and other important times .you can plan work and other family commitments around these dates.
• Establish a family routine and  encourage the family members to share the household chores.
• Get help when you need it for the chores you can’t find time for. Eliminate unnecessary chores.
• Make time to relax. Reward yourself with the things that you enjoy doing in your personal time. It include walking the dog once a week, going to yoga
• Don’t do too much and run yourself worn out, lean on your partner and family to help you when things get really hectic.
• Look for ways to manage your working week more simply, e.g. allocate a day a week that you have a takeaway dinner, or do the shopping.
• Prepare yourself and the children the night before for the day ahead e.g. packing lunch, preparing clothes to wear etc.
• Plan nice things to do with your family on days off work, something to look forward to for both you and your children.
• Find time to exercise. Even a 20 minute walk twice a week can work wonders. This can be done to and from work, during lunch or with the family when you get home.

NB: I have found this interesting and with little plus and minus  I like to share it with you.  hope it is useful .Strike a perfect balance. 

Thought Management

15 September 2011-Thought Management

 Managing thoughts is liberating and a vitalizing experience.

           The problem in managing our thoughts are buried beneath our conscious awareness. We don’t know what they are. Our thought life contains a massive collection of information (beliefs, values, attitudes, opinions, etc.) that we have accumulated through the years and stored away in our minds.

            Think how we use our thoughts to figure things out, analyze problems, plan ahead and make decisions.  We also use our thoughts to avoid doing uncomfortable things, escape from stressful situations, protect ourselves, justify ourselves, make excuses, avoid guilt, etc.

         We go through our lives without knowing how important our moment-to-moment thinking pattern, and its impacts on our happiness and satisfaction. Often we blame situations,circumstances and others.  The simple truth is that we create our lives with our thoughts-either damaging thoughts or positive thoughts.

 What we think , than what we will become.

      According to the AIS, the American Institute of Stress, People have very different ideas with respect to their definition of stress. Probably the most common is, "physical, mental, or emotional strain or tension".

     When we are stressed, we make two main judgments: 

• First, we feel threatened by the situation, and 
• second, we  judge whether our capabilities and resources are sufficient to meet the threat.

The degree of stress depends on how much damage it will do us, and how closely our resources meet the demands of the situation.

This, along with other negative thinking, can cause intense stress and unhappiness and can severely undermine our own self-confidence.  

With Thought Management, 

• we must Learn ways to change our thoughts. 
•  Learn what it takes to be a happy .
• Learn how to make the positive changes we desire and to see the  world with a brighter perception.

 Do this and enjoy Life as it comes.  Relax
        

• Identify Your Thoughts
• Evaluate Your Thoughts
• Dispute the Wrong Thoughts
• Substitute New Thoughts
• Work Out the New Thoughts
• Pass On the New Thoughts
• Spread joy  and peace.

This is what the Thought Management could make a great difference in our life.

GOD BLESS.

Beautiful flowers @ Kodaikanal  Tamil Nadu

TENSION

         TENSION


The moment you are in TENSION

 You will   loose   ATTENTION,

Then you are in total CONFUSION,

And you will feel IRRITATION,

Then you spoil personal RELATION,

Ultimately you won’t get CO OPERATION,

Then there will be  in COMPLICATION,

Then your BP may also rise CAUTION,

And you have to take MEDICATION,

Instead understand the SITUATION,

And try to think about a SOLUTION,

Many problems will be solved by DISCUSSION,

This will work out better in your PROFESSION,

Do not think it is my free SUGGESTION,

It is only your PREVENTON,

If you understand my  INTENTION.

 NB: I came across this statement  and I wanted to share it.

Red Lilly in my garden Tirunelveli Tamil nadu

I am  sure you will learn to be away from tension and stress.

Personality Development

5-August 2011

Personality Development

A positive attitude can help us in all walks of lives. Being confident and feeling beautiful from within has nothing to do about our physical appearance,every individual has a different personality; So what is personality development all about? How it can alter situations in our everyday life. 

How it can change our life:

Various factors you will need to consider for personality development and therein to have a positive effect on your life. Personality development is about your uniqueness and how you control your emotions, to act in a way that is most advantageous for you.

 When we think and analyze how people around us have behaved or reacted, we are in a way trying to assess how their personalities are, without really knowing what we are doing. A personality is being constructed with a combination of of thoughts and feelings we have within us, resulting  in our behavior. 

Factors of Personality Development:

·         Have a positive attitude
Positive thinking is a major aspect about personality development, which helps to alter the results and to get positive results in your way. Start believing yourself. It  helps  to create better opportunities and  bring about an improved change in your life. you can  approach anything with self-confidence and in turn creates positive feelings . Have a strong  confidence in your  capabilities ,abilities and develop a "Yes; I can’"-- attitude.

·         Motivate Yourself
keep yourself motivated about your tasks and responsibilities. Successful people reach their position because they always had a constant drive and urge to go forward . Focus on your goals. Try to rectify the problem rather than turn your back on it.

·         Believe in your strengths
Think about all your abilities. It will shape and mould you into a better person. Personality development is about portraying yourself in a better fashion and feeling confident about goals you have set for yourself.

Do not focus on your negative side. Make a list of all your positive points. Be encouraging to yourself; if you are facing any problem, relax and try to look at it, in a different way. This will help you to overcome your problems with ease. 

·         Effective Body Language
Your posture  and body language  can say a lot about you. Effective body language includes -facial expression, gestures, how you stand , smile, speak , how you sit and the way you  react etc… develop your body language, to portray you in a better way. Make eye contact while speaking; sit erect .A correct body posture confirms a confident personality.

·         Handle people in  the right way
To be effective, you must work on yourself and on aspects around you. Learning how to handle people is an important factor about personality development.Be honest about your approach and be genuinely interested in people around you. Learning how to handle people with a positive approach can make people around you feel positive and can create a happy environment.

Use your authority with utmost  care and in  respect for others. Effective personality development will help you create  a better impression upon others and build a good rapport with your co-workers.

Focusing on personality development can help you to  overcome many hurdles in your life. Problems that may seem to be large , can appear suddenly easy for you. Fill your mind with positive and fresh thoughts. Be cheerful always.

Remember, how you present yourself has a lot to do with the way in which, things can turn out for you. So, turn things in your favor with successful ways of personality 

development.

Remember GOD has created you in a unique way..

So keep going..... and learn to accept yourself as you are..

Learn to Correct your personality

Do not  try to pose as an another person

Flower Show @Kodaikanal-Tamil nadu

 Be yourself... Enjoy

 MAY GOD BLESS YOU

Tips to develop confidence

Tips to develop confidence in you;

We make mistakes often and it is natural.. Even if your physical appearance or social skills are not what you wish they were, it should not stop you from being confident

·         Focus on your features to help distract you from those parts of yourself that you think are flawed. Do you always stay calm, cool and collected, even in hurried situations?

·         Think of the qualities that your  Role model displays, whether physical, emotional, moral, or spiritual. Work towards acquiring them.

·         Try not to focus negatively on what others think of you. Instead, focus more on what they think of themselves, and try to help them become happier and more confident.

·         Accept complement gracefully  Take it to heart and respond positively 

·         When you feel right about something, speak loudly and clearly and make eye contact with people.

·         People will judge you all the time, and usually  they may  misjudge you, so why bother trying to cater to their opinions ?

·         Eat a healthy diet and get enough exercise. Don't abuse your body, don't overload it, and don't deny it any of the things it needs.

·         Confidence comes from within. Take the time to reflect on your life and do some emotional maintenance. In order to be confident, you must value yourself and understand that your well-being is important.

·         Having good posture can actually make you feel more confident. Don't slouch or slump your shoulders. Make sure that your back is straight, your shoulders are square, and your chest is puffed out slightly Good posture also helps with deep breathing, which helps with feeling calm and relaxed.

·         Don't compare yourself with other people.

·         Listen to your inner monologue—your inner voice. In situations where you believe you lack confidence, realize that your inner voice is telling you negative things. You need to retrain that inner voice to be positive in those situations.

·         Speak positively at all times..

·         Slow down all of your movements including your walking speed. Quick movements and actions are the product of someone who is nervous and not in control.

·         Write down a detailed, thought-out list of values which are important to you

·         Be thankful for what you have. A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling of not having enough of something. Finding that inner peace will do wonders for your confidence.

·         Do something for yourself. Dye your hair, get that new look, have a treat that you enjoy, go on holiday....whatever you do, do it for yourself, do not worry what anyone else thinks about it.

·         Be yourself don't be afraid to ask questions!!!

·         When you look in the mirror don't look for flaws, instead smile and tell yourself you look pretty today.

·         Listen to an inspirational, or happy song. One that makes you feel good,

·          Above all if God can be with you guiding your footsteps with extreme care you are definitely a success--  nobody or nothing can stop you .

·         IF GOD BE FOR US WHO CAN BE AGAINST US?

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 NB: I stumbled upon this and thought I can share it with you.

Value has a Value only if its Value is valued

Value has a Value only if its

   Value is valued

   Many times in our lives, we are dropped, rejected, shunned crumpled, thrown round into the dirt by the decisions we made and the circumstances that come on our way. 

We feel there is some sort of emptiness, as though we are worthless.

But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value.

You are special, don’t ever forget it!

Never let yesterday's disappointments overshadow tomorrow's dreams.

In today’s scenario, human values are  thrown away and actually discarded. There is an urgent need to inculcate value in the young minds. 

Lay down the strategies and principles to lead a good life, no matter how hard we are hit the success ladder with falls and failures, we can stand on a firm ground with value of life which makes the world a better place to live.

            Everybody now seeks values in life .It is a vanishing factor now.

• How to preserve the value?

      Start right from home - then move slowly on  to schooling to higher education.

Education is mere stuffing of facts and now a days is synonymous with

• Examination
• Employment
• Empowerment

                           and not stands for

• Emancipation
• Ennoblement
• Evolution

We, human beings are different from animals because we can think and act, if you do not think or your think -tank is empty we are animals, who do not necessarily think.

Understanding the Value of Values

                                 Our values help determine our tastes, way of life, entertainment, and social, political and religious interactions.

  Discover your Core Values…

Everyone of us has our own set of core values that's are unique .

These core values determine what is really important to you as an individual.

• Understand the Value of Values

Many of the people have interacted that  their values are the grave  proble, because they are aware that something is wrong or missing in their life, but they do not know what.

Often it happens because they are unclear on what their core values are and what is most important to them. 

Our values help determine our tastes, way of life, entertainment, and social, political and religious interactions. We hold many values, which are liable to change as we grow and reach different stages of life.

Many people in their find their core values have been suppressed, compromised or ignored completely when they travel in life different stages.

 For some people, a conflict arises within because rather than living a life according to their own core values, they are trying to live according to the values of  others due to compulsion or compromise or mere force-  even may be male chauvinism –in the  work place , a religious  notion or political idea  or for their  friends, colleagues or life  partner.

The values adopted survives and our own value are at stake –our own values are being left unfulfilled.

• What is  the  Value of Knowing your Values?. 
• Invest time and energy to get clear idea on  your values and life purpose,
•  define and communicate what you really want from your life, and
• then let your values govern your decisions,

          now you will live a fulfilling second half of life.

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